Be encouraged. God put you in your situation for a specific reason; perhaps you are helping someone right now and don’t know it, or maybe the lessons and experiences you are going through now are preparing you to help someone in the future. Either way, He has used your talents to put you in a situation where His kingdom can grow. Don’t lose heart! God puts people in our lives for a reason and I have often found that our unique talents and abilities give us exactly what is needed to help other people out in this world. Sometimes it means we go through some pain, but we were given an opportunity and gift to help someone out in a way that no one else could.
I’ve learned quite a bit this year. I’ve had to trust God because all of my plans failed and I was left wondering what the future held. I learned that sometimes you don’t end up with the one person you thought was perfect for you. And once you distance yourself from the situation, you realize it wasn’t that perfect, but even knowing that, you still wish that sometimes you could go back to before you knew it wasn’t perfect. I’ve learned that people who you think you can count on, will let you down. But people who you never expected to care, will come to help you in your dark hours. I’ve learned that to fully appreciate someone, you have to be willing to fully give yourself; this means risking greater pain, but you’ll experience deeper joy. I’ve learned that letting someone go does not mean you lose them. You take the memories and lessons learned with you wherever you go. I’ve learned that sometimes you need to be friends with someone because they need to be loved and God placed you in their life exactly for that purpose. It may be incredibly hard, and you may have to swallow some pride, but loving the unlovable is one of your greatest callings. I’ve learned that no matter how dark it is or how lost you are, someone still cares, and they are looking for you, trying to help you find your way home. And no matter how long you’ve been gone, your true friends will always welcome you back. I’ve learned that God is everywhere, even in your troubles. His love is found in the most unexpected places and shown through the most unexpected people. And just when you think you can’t go any farther, you will find Him. Feel His love; know His presence, and gain His strength. I’ve learned that sometime lessons keep repeating themselves because we keep missing the real point. I’ve learned once you leave home, it will never be the same- everything changes, including you- but while it won’t be the same, it will always be full of love. I’ve learned that even though we want things to be the same, friendships to never end, they will. People fade away, grow apart, but this just means we must learn to embrace the new, while cherishing the old. I’ve learned that sometimes the only arms that can take your pain away are the ones causing it. Hugs can be bittersweet. I’ve learned to cherish hugs from people I care about because they may not always be around. If you love someone, tell them because life goes on and you may realize you lost your chance. Don’t let the little things bug you, but do let them excite you. It makes life way more enjoyable. Most of all, I’ve learned somebody always loves me and God is always watching over me, even if I can’t see the whole picture.
“Always be yourself. You can’t change because of the circumstances around you.” -Cotton Fitzsimmons
Good Enough yet?
“Don’t insist on bringing into today the failures of yesterday. In doing this, you pollute a potentially wonderful day”
So, how’s that goal coming? Even with the best set plan, and the highest motivation, setbacks come along. How we respond to those setbacks will determine if we ever reach our goal. Often, we let our past failures determine our future and present circumstances. Just because you have failed at a goal in the past, does not mean that you need to fail at your current one. We have the chance to restart and try to reach our goal again. A single setback does not mean that we are defeated; it simply means that we have to work a little harder to get what we want.
This seems like such a simple concept; begin each day new. But it is hard to master. One of the biggest difficulties in living this principle lies in the fact that we believe we must be “good enough” before we can ever accomplish anything. In our society there is constant pressure to be caught up in the latest fashions, music, trends, and to be at the “perfect” weight. We are bombarded by messages telling us that we have to attain this certain ideal before we are worth anything. I can’t tell you how many times that people have said to me, “I think I better get into better shape before I work out with you. I don’t want to be embarrassed.” They don’t feel “good enough” to workout with me, so they will wait until they get to a point where they do feel worthy before they make a commitment to someone else (me) to change their lifestyle. In our spiritual lives, we find the same principle; we don’t come to God because we feel unworthy. We have done things, thought things, said things, which we are ashamed of, and before we are going to go to God we are going to change our ways. The problem with this line of thinking is that thus far in our lives, we have tried to get to that “good enough” place on our own, whether it is physically, mentally, or spiritually, and we have not been able to do it. And so, we continue to fail at our goals, and with each failure we are solidifying that fear that we aren’t good enough. We don’t leave our past failures in yesterday; we bring them with us each day. We let them inhibit today’s goals. If someone has depression and needs to see a psychiatrist, they will not wait until they are happy enough before they go to the doctor. That obviously seems stupid. But that is exactly what we do, whether it is conscious or not, when we wait to be “good enough” before trying to accomplish our goals.
My challenge to you is to become aware of your thoughts, do you notice that when you hit a setback you automatically think about past failures and reasons why you shouldn’t be able to achieve your goals? Or do you take the setback in stride and keep moving forward? Becoming conscious of your thoughts is the first step; if we are aware that we are holding ourselves back, then we can begin the process of overcoming those thoughts. If your goal is something that requires help or assistance from someone else, don’t wait until you feel that you are at a point of “good enough” to seek their assistance. Start where you are and trust that they will accept you at that point and help you get where you want to go. God knows we aren’t perfect, and He does not expect us to become perfect before we come to Him for help. A psychiatrist does not expect someone to figure out their chemical and emotional imbalances before coming in for help. As I trainer I can assure you that I don’t expect my clients to be in shape when they come to me. If they were already where they wanted to be, then they wouldn’t need my help. I can pretty much assure you that there will always be a reason why you should not feel “good enough” to do something, sometimes the reasons are legit, more often than not, they are arbitrary. Stop letting your past failures determine that you aren’t worthy to achieve your new goals.
So, I decided to start a blog about health. Not just in a physical sense, but also in a spiritual, emotional, and mental way too. I am a strength and conditioning coach, so I obviously know all about working people out in a physical way. But my goal in life goes so much further than helping people physically. To me, being healthy does not limit you to being in shape. In order to be the best YOU, your health must incorporate the physical, spiritual, emotional, and mental components of life. This blog is aimed at helping you do that. I will post pictures, videos, workouts, thoughts, and quotes in hopes that you can be inspired and encouraged to become the best version of yourself.
“The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself.”