Good Enough yet?
“Don’t insist on bringing into today the failures of yesterday. In doing this, you pollute a potentially wonderful day”
So, how’s that goal coming? Even with the best set plan, and the highest motivation, setbacks come along. How we respond to those setbacks will determine if we ever reach our goal. Often, we let our past failures determine our future and present circumstances. Just because you have failed at a goal in the past, does not mean that you need to fail at your current one. We have the chance to restart and try to reach our goal again. A single setback does not mean that we are defeated; it simply means that we have to work a little harder to get what we want.
This seems like such a simple concept; begin each day new. But it is hard to master. One of the biggest difficulties in living this principle lies in the fact that we believe we must be “good enough” before we can ever accomplish anything. In our society there is constant pressure to be caught up in the latest fashions, music, trends, and to be at the “perfect” weight. We are bombarded by messages telling us that we have to attain this certain ideal before we are worth anything. I can’t tell you how many times that people have said to me, “I think I better get into better shape before I work out with you. I don’t want to be embarrassed.” They don’t feel “good enough” to workout with me, so they will wait until they get to a point where they do feel worthy before they make a commitment to someone else (me) to change their lifestyle. In our spiritual lives, we find the same principle; we don’t come to God because we feel unworthy. We have done things, thought things, said things, which we are ashamed of, and before we are going to go to God we are going to change our ways. The problem with this line of thinking is that thus far in our lives, we have tried to get to that “good enough” place on our own, whether it is physically, mentally, or spiritually, and we have not been able to do it. And so, we continue to fail at our goals, and with each failure we are solidifying that fear that we aren’t good enough. We don’t leave our past failures in yesterday; we bring them with us each day. We let them inhibit today’s goals. If someone has depression and needs to see a psychiatrist, they will not wait until they are happy enough before they go to the doctor. That obviously seems stupid. But that is exactly what we do, whether it is conscious or not, when we wait to be “good enough” before trying to accomplish our goals.
My challenge to you is to become aware of your thoughts, do you notice that when you hit a setback you automatically think about past failures and reasons why you shouldn’t be able to achieve your goals? Or do you take the setback in stride and keep moving forward? Becoming conscious of your thoughts is the first step; if we are aware that we are holding ourselves back, then we can begin the process of overcoming those thoughts. If your goal is something that requires help or assistance from someone else, don’t wait until you feel that you are at a point of “good enough” to seek their assistance. Start where you are and trust that they will accept you at that point and help you get where you want to go. God knows we aren’t perfect, and He does not expect us to become perfect before we come to Him for help. A psychiatrist does not expect someone to figure out their chemical and emotional imbalances before coming in for help. As I trainer I can assure you that I don’t expect my clients to be in shape when they come to me. If they were already where they wanted to be, then they wouldn’t need my help. I can pretty much assure you that there will always be a reason why you should not feel “good enough” to do something, sometimes the reasons are legit, more often than not, they are arbitrary. Stop letting your past failures determine that you aren’t worthy to achieve your new goals.